How Tapping Into Your Dreams Can Reveal Your Subconscious Mind

I found these carved wooden words and hung them in my bathroom as decor when I was manifesting a man.  I thought it was a cute play on words and funny decor for a bathroom.

Also, it was really fucking honest about where I was in my willingness to meet my man.  I was ready … finally… again … to meet someone and truly learn to be vulnerable within a new relationship. I wanted to put what I had learned since my last divorce into practice.  

It was as if my hanging these words on the wall was my signal to the universe, Ok, I’m ready.  Let’s get naked!

Cheeky, I know.  Little did I realize how much this would become my battle cry of being an entrepreneur and the part my clients struggle with the most.

Get Naked.

When I begin to share my life online, it was a new kind of vulnerability to share and almost welcome feedback about the big and small things I was doing.  I was awkward and felt silly. I overshared at times.  I deleted posts.  I under-shared, too.  Another pic of me smiling with very little depth or purpose in the caption?  I heard crickets. It took some time to find the balance between being seen and known, but also keeping my private life private.  As I came to learn, this whole embracing vulnerability is a dance.

When I first wrote my book and put it out into the world, it felt like I was bearing a part of my soul. Almost as if I was saying: Here, please read my words I’ve poured over and attempted to perfect.  I was excited and nervous, but also secretly terrified that people wouldn’t love my baby as much as I did.  In the end, it was truly an act of service. In the writing of my book, I shared my journey authentically but did so in hopes that it would help someone else avoid the pitfalls I did. It was truly a labor of love.

Here’s the thing.  That is life.

Vulnerability opens you up to it all.

This human experience we all signed up for.  Sometimes it leaves us wondering.  Occasionally, we are amazed and blown away.  Most of the time, we are left saying. “Wait.  This isn’t quite what I wanted.”

Only you did. You did sign up for the heartbreak that feels soul-crushing.  You wanted the wins that take your breath away and the exhilarating flying-free triumphs. You also wanted the losses that knocked you down a peg and the setbacks that left you scratching your head.  You wanted the FULL human experience, the ups and the downs.  You are getting that full emotional experience, so you can then learn how to choose and co-create - then choose again.

This idea of getting naked and opening up to true vulnerability. This fear of being seen and truly understood will keep popping up as a theme in your life until you decide you’re ready to face it and you allow it in.

Real-Life Example:

I had a client recently who was encountering this same issue with being vulnerable, but it wasn’t until we spent time interpreting one of her dreams in our session that it all came together and made sense.  

Your soul is always speaking to you. The universe is always providing the signs and breadcrumbs to get you where you want to be.  Dreams can be a great way to start paying attention to what your subconscious mind is telling you.

My Client’s Dream:

She was in the setting of what seemed like a video game.  She had run into an abandoned warehouse and was hiding behind a wall.  There were other people running into the building with her.  All these soldiers were marching down the road just outside the building. There was a window nearby so she kept peeking out to see if the soldiers were going to see her.  

The part of the dream that she kept repeating to me was that she was hiding. She was trying to stay out of sight and that she was hoping they wouldn’t see her.

Dream Interpretation (according to dreammoods.com)

Hiding: To dream that you are hiding suggests that you are keeping some secret or withholding some information. You may not be facing up to a situation or dealing with some issue. However, you may be getting ready to reveal something and confess before somebody finds out. In particular, to dream that you are hiding from some authority figure (police, parent, teacher...), implies feelings of guilt.

Soldier: To see or dream that you are a soldier signifies discipline, structure, rigidity and your staunch attitude. You are imposing your opinions and feelings on others. Alternatively, a soldier means that you are preparing yourself to do battle over an issue. You feel the need to defend your beliefs, values and opinions.

Dreams can uncover themes

Together, we interpreted her dream and uncovered a theme that was playing out in her day-to-day life.  In our work together, I already knew that she was in the midst of online dating and running into issues getting from Date #1 to Date #2.  I also knew that she was purposely not including anything about her daughter in her profile and intentionally not mentioning that she is a mom actively raising a child.  She was completely turned off by all the men she kept finding who put their kid’s photos in their profiles - she felt strongly against it.  She had the limiting belief that men wouldn’t be interested in her or would lose interest once they found out she had an 8-year-old.  

In our session, I connected the dots for her.  She wasn’t seeing the relevance of her dream to her waking life.  I pointed out that she was using this strongly held belief about not using children’s photos in dating profiles to hide the fact that she is a mom.  Coincidentally, we both agree that kids’ photos should be kept out of dating profiles. However, using that to completely omit that she had a child was different. She was losing an opportunity to be vulnerable and put herself out there as a Single MOM who is looking for love.  We dug into her limiting belief about how she would be accepted and created a new plan for revealing this truth about her life in a way that honored keeping her daughter’s face private and still allowed her to show up authentically.  She felt a bit naked but agreed that this was a much more genuine approach that she had been taking.

Questions to ask yourself:

In what ways are you being called to Get Naked?

How are you not showing up authentically?

Where can you offer more vulnerability?

Oftentimes, using your dreams to interpret what your subconscious is trying to tell you can be an easy first step.  I encourage you to listen, observe, and get curious. Start by keeping a dream journal and simply jot down the dreams you remember upon waking. The seemingly silly or bizarre ones usually hold the biggest clues.

When you still can’t make heads or tails of it, pull in another set of eyes to look at the situation. This is one of my favorite ways to gain clarity with clients. The first session working with me can be incredibly eye-opening when we start by interpreting a dream. We start with super complex problems and create a simple plan of action. We dig into the super fucking weird dreams that make no sense and connect the dots.

If you’re hitting a wall and feeling stuck, let’s start by taking a closer look at your dreams.

Book a Clarity Call with me - we’ll get you started!